Break-Ups: How to Get Through
- Blackwomananonymous
- Jul 29, 2018
- 2 min read
Break-ups suck.
Or do they?
Freeing yourself from an attachment to someone you once loved and maybe still do, is difficult but definitely not impossible. Life will go on.
Healthy steps to moving forward and through...
1. Lean on your family and close friends. This could mean spending more time doing things together or just reaching out to that one close family member or friend who you know you can trust. Someone that won't judge and can relate.
2. Rely on your spirituality. -if this applies. Pray, meditate, ask GOD to help you get through this tough time. Read your scriptures. Ask for peace and the strength to move on. Pray for clarity but most of all, know that, if it was meant to be it would be.
3. CRY. Simple and plain-let it out. Even if the breakup is something to celebrate, if you feel like crying, do it. Building a relationship with someone is tough and to see it end may feel like you're mourning. That is normal. Feel all the feels, then get back up and keep going.
4. Indulge. If you want to eat ice cream, eat it. If you want to have chocolate, bake the brownies. Just do it in moderation. Have limits.
5. Discover more about yourself. Learn more about you. Take this time to strengthen your wants, needs, dislikes, likes. That way when the next relationship comes you'll be more than ready.
6. Create Healthy Boundaries. Don't text him sis. Let it go bro. If it's over, it's over, no need to send mixed signals or open old wounds unecessarily. Delete communication through social media and rid yourself of things that may remind you of that person. Out of sight, out of mind? Probably.
7. See a Therapist. There are times when you'll need an outside perspective from a professional and THAT'S OKAY. Maybe you need help processing the breakup or need someone to vent to that can offer guidance on how to move forward. See a therapist if you need to.
8. Try something new. Take an art or cooking class. Go for a hike. Explore the unusual. You might like it.
However you choose to get through, just make sure it's healthy. Be good to yourself. You will be okay. Find the beauty within the transition.
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